Monday, January 2, 2017

Meredith's Monday Musings: Misconceptions of Age Play

Hi Everyone!

Happy Monday and New Year! Did y'all survive New Year's Eve? I did (obviously). LOL! I had a bunch of fun with my family. Now that the holidays are over, I'm ready to get writing. The only issue is, I have to figure out what story I want to work on. Until then, we can discuss the topic for this week's Meredith Monday Musing Post: The many misconceptions of age play.

Being a writer, I like to do my research so my writing accurately reflects a concept, piece of technology, etc. Since the majority of my stories have age play elements in them, I read many age play blogs, books, etc just to keep up on everything. In my years of reading these items, it makes me a little sad when I read phrases like, "You need to do this to be a little...." or "Littles cannot do....".

Let's make one thing clear first, when a person is a little, it is up to them and only them what constitutes being a little means. It doesn't matter what I think, or what anyone else thinks. That is the first misconception that I'd like to discuss. I have read so many things where a little enjoys sucking on a pacifier, talking like a baby, using a bottle, etc. Those activities are awesome for a little who enjoys regressing to a baby. However, they are not activities that one must do to be a little. You get to be the one to decide what you like to do when you regress. For some, that might mean calling their partner Daddy when they're having sex. For others, it might mean watching Clifford the Big Red Dog while folding laundry. Do you get my point? There's no "right" activity that one must do to be officially called a little.

Along with there being no "right" activities for a person to do when they're acting little, there is no right age. Some littles, enjoy acting like a baby. Others, enjoy acting like a bratty teenager. The person gets to decide what age they want to regress to and whatever they decide is right is right for them.

Another misconception that many people have is that in order to be a little, they need a Mommy or Daddy to watch over them. This isn't the case. Sure, it might help to have someone there to comfort the little or watch over them, but it isn't needed. Letting your little side out can make a person feel very vulnerable, so they might want to be alone while they let go. That's okay. A person can play with their dolls, suck on a pacifier, watch a G-rated movie, or use a vibrator while they imagine letting their Mommy or Daddy fuck them. It's up to the person, if they want to let someone be by them when their acting little, that's great. If they don't, that's great too. It's their choice, but a Mommy/Daddy is not needed for a person to let their little side out.

Additionally, there seems to be a misconception that if a person is little that they aren't as much of an adult as others who are not littles. This is far from the truth. When a person regresses, it's a choice that they make. It isn't like they can't control when and where they let go of their responsibilities. They decide when and where it happens. It's the same as when a person decides to ask submissive. Just because a person is submissive in the bedroom, doesn't mean that she/he can't take charge in a situation outside of the bedroom. The exact same thing goes for littles. So, if you're little, don't let anyone ever tell you that you're less of an adult because of it.

One misconception that I can't stand is there are some people that say that people act little because they had a horrible childhood. This isn't the case. Why a person acts little is different for everyone. Some people enjoy acting little because they get turned on by it. They get turned on by the taboo thought of having sex with their Daddy or Mommy. Or letting their Daddy or Mommy spank them. That's okay. Each person has their own things that arouse them and no one can tell a little that what arouses them is wrong. (The same goes for any person and their kinks).

While some get turned on by acting little, others don't. For the ones that don't, acting little can just be an outlet for them to relax. As adults, we have so many responsibilities and worries on our shoulders, it can get overwhelming. Being little allows a person to get let go of those worries for a while and just relax.

In some cases, yes, a person enjoys being little because they had a rough childhood and being little is a way for them to regress to that hard period of their lives and relive it, but in a positive setting. That's fine, in fact, I believe it's a healthy way to cope. However, not all who are little have had bad childhoods.

Lastly, this so much isn't a misconception about age play, but it's something I'd like to share. There are some littles out there who are ashamed for having a little side. They're embarrassed or they think it makes them weak. Being little, is not something to be embarrassed about. It's okay to enjoy wanting to regress, even if you don't know why you like it. If you try and fight your little side, it'll take a lot of energy to do so, and most likely, it'll come out eventually. So, my advice to littles who aren't sure about regressing is read books about it, read blogs, go on FetLife, talk to real littles. Do anything to try and find out more information about being little. If you don't want to do that, then just accept it. Even if you have to take baby steps (no pun intended) to do so, do it. If you don't, it'll just torture you.

Remember all, whether you write about littles or are one, there is no right way to be a little. Just like there is no right way to bake cookies or there is no right color to be your favorite. What makes you feel little is what's right for you and don't let anyone tell you any different.

All right, that's all from me for now. I hope that y'all have a Happy Monday!


  1. Thanks for speaking out about this, Meredith. Interesting post and you make some valid points. It's all about what works for you as a couple and or individual. I hope 2017 is a no shame year for people trying to find their way.

    1. Stevie, I agree with you 100%. I hope that 2017 is a no shame year for people too.

  2. And this is why I love your books so much!