Monday, November 20, 2017

Meredith's Monday Musings: Thanksgiving

Hi All!

Happy Monday and (soon) Thanksgiving! I can’t believe that Turkey Day is this Thursday all ready. Is everyone prepared for the holiday and maybe some Black Friday shopping? I’m not! I still have a lot of cleaning to do!

Today’s Meredith’s Monday Musings topic is: Thanksgiving! 

I love this holiday for so many reasons. The main one is probably because it’s a time where my whole family can get together. With all of us being adults now, having full time jobs, and starting families, it’s really hard to get all of us together. Holidays are great days where we get to come together as one, reminisce about memories, and share what’s going on in our lives. So, that’s pretty awesome. 

This might sound bad to say, but another reason why I love this holiday is the food. Let me start off by saying, I love all food. It’s delicious. I probably eat too much on a daily basis, but on Thanksgiving, oh man, I indulge myself! How can I not, though? The food is all SOOO good and there’s so much of it. Mmm. Truth be told though, my favorite part about this meal is the leftovers. I’m a huge fan of Shepard’s Pie. If you don’t know what that is, it’s basically where you take a bowl, put whatever left overs you want in it, you can mix it up or not, heat it up, and eat it. It’s really good!

Another reason why I love Thanksgiving is the meaning behind it. As a human who lives in a first world country, I can say that I don’t think about how thankful I am as much as I should. I think it’s pretty safe to say too that most first world country humans don’t. Maybe I’m wrong, but it’s my opinion. Anyway, I like that Thanksgiving makes us think about how all of the things that we’re thankful for. It gives us a chance to reflect how lucky we are for the things we have and maybe because of this, ways that we could help out others who aren’t as lucky as we are. I think if more people did that, thought of others and how they could help them out, our world would be a much better place. 

Well, that’s all I have for today. I hope y’all have a very Happy Thanksgiving! 

Monday, November 13, 2017

Meredith's Monday Musings: Anxiety

Hi Everyone!

Happy Monday! How’s everyone’s week going so far? Mine is going pretty good. I had a very fun Halloween. I hope y’all did too!

This week’s Meredith’s Monday Musings post is all about: Anxiety! 

I have anxiety with just about everything. I’m here to say that it sucks. Oh my gosh, does it suck big monkey balls. I don’t think I’d wish this on anyone. The constant worrying, the over analyzing of every situation, the physical symptoms from all of this (insomnia, physically getting ill, fingers and toes going numb, the sensation of being about to faint). Needless to say, it isn’t fun.

Ever since I was a little kid, I always worried. I wanted to make sure I didn’t upset anyone, that I got good grades, that my parents were happy with me, etc. It wasn’t until I was in my third year of college that I noticed my “worry wart” tendencies to be getting worse. I spoke with one of my teachers who had very open in the past about her own anxiety issues and with her help, I was able to go talk to someone and learn how to deal with my anxiety. 

Two years later, I’m doing much better than I was. Don’t get me wrong, there are still times when my anxiety is worse than others. For instance, when I got a new job. The first couple of months were hard because I was in a new place, having to deal with a whole different type of clients than what I was used to, etc. The feeling to want to crawl into a ball and hide under the covers came back with a vengeance. But, I knew that wasn’t an option. If I did that, I’d be letting the anxiety win. So, I pulled myself together, did a few deep breathing exercises, reminded myself of what was the worst that could happen, and moved on. I’m glad I did because my job is going great now!

I’m not writing this post to get sympathy. In fact, I hate it when people treat me differently because they know I worry a lot. I’m the same person, I just sometimes can’t stop worrying, even when a situation seems small or not that big of a deal. I shared this post for one, to let others out there who experience anxiety to know that they aren’t alone. In fact, it’s stated that 14 million adults have anxiety. That’s a lot of people! What’s sad is that, it’s also stated that only 36.9% of people who have anxiety, get help from it. Coming from someone who has gotten help,  trust me, it will make a world of difference! 

The second reason why I’m sharing this is because for the people who don’t have anxiety, I want you to understand it a bit better. I don’t worry to get attention, I literally just can’t help it. Trust me, if I could stop worrying about everything, I would in a heartbeat. So please, just be patient and whatever you do, DO NOT SAY “Calm down.” or “Can’t you just relax?” When I hear those words, it makes me want to punch the person in the face because if I could do either of those two things, I would be doing them already. Any person who has anxiety would be doing them too. The best thing a “non-anxious” person can do is: be understanding, ask if there’s anything you can do to help, reassure the anxious person that everything will be okay, and let the anxious person do whatever they need to calm themselves down. These four things will help the most. 

That’s all I got for today. I hope that everyone has a great week! 

Monday, November 6, 2017

Meredith's Monday Musings: Five Things I'm Grateful For

Hey All!

Happy Monday! Holy Smokes! We’re in November already. I seriously can’t believe it. Time is flying by so fast! Before we know it, it’ll be Christmas. 

Today’s Meredith’s Monday Musings post is all about: Five things I’m grateful for.

Before I begin, I’d like to say that there are of course more than five things I’m grateful for in my life. However, I can’t list them all because I’d be writing that list forever and I’m sure that none of you want to read every thing I’m grateful for. 

To start off, I’m of course grateful for my parents. My parents might drive me insane most of the time, but I am so thankful for them. Without both of their hard work and dedication to raising the best children they could, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I can remember all the times my Dad helped me with my math homework, no matter how long it took to explain concepts to me and my Mom would proof read all of my papers. Or when I was struggling with reading, my Dad offered to read the Harry Potter series with me and we’d take turn reading pages out loud. He didn’t care that I stumbled over every other word, he’d never lost his patience in helping me sound out the words and keep going. 

Even as I’ve gotten older, they continue to support me. When my Mom, (an old school Catholic) found out that I was writing erotic books, her initial reaction was nothing but displeasure, (which she let me know often). However, after I explained to her how important this was to me and how much I loved writing, she began to support me. Now, she even asks questions about how my stories are doing. I know this might sound small, but it’s a huge step for a person who has a very different perspective on this topic. 

The second thing I’m grateful for is my friends. I know this sounds so generic, but it’s true. I wouldn’t be able to get through my work day if I didn’t have my friend at work making little jokes to make the day seem less boring. Don’t even get me started on my best friend. Despite the fact that she is pretty vanilla, she helps me get over at times being ashamed for what I write and helping encouraging me to keep going. 

The friends I’ve made online through my writing are absolutely amazing too. Whenever I’m having a bad day or get stuck with writing a story, I know that I can count on them to help me get past it. It’s pretty awesome. To say I’m spoiled when it comes to how many friends I have in real life vs my author life is an understatement. 

The third thing I’m grateful for are books, whether they be e-books or real, physical books. Ever since I was a little girl, I always loved to read. This continues today. There is such a comfort being able to escape into a different world and forget about my own for a bit. Through other people’s words, I can travel along with them to new places, get to learn about things I had never even known existed, or simply get swept up into a compelling story. Books are such magical objects and I will always be grateful for them.

The fourth thing I’m grateful for is libraries. I know, I just wrote above that I was grateful for books, so how can I now say that I’m grateful for libraries. Well, they are very different. I don’t know about y’all, but I enjoy going to my library at least once a week. Being able to check out books, DVDs, CDs, etc is so awesome. I have read so many books that I never would have even known about thanks to my library. I know most thing that this is the only thing that libraries have to offer, but it isn’t true. I go to my library when it’s time to grab my tax forms or if I need help on a project, I’ll go to a reference library. Nine times out of ten, they’ll be able to point me in the right direction and give me some great tips to make my project neat. Besides that, libraries everywhere, not just mine offer some serious great programs for people of all ages. It’s really awesome!

The last thing I’m grateful for is modern medicine. I know this sounds cheesy, but I mean it. Working in the health care field, I get to see the amazing benefits that modern medicine has on helping people get people. One hundred years ago, the rates of death from a disease were so much higher, people wouldn’t go to the doctors for fear of what they’d be told. Now, deaths from diseases are down. Heck, some diseases like polio, measles, etc we’ve almost eradicated from the world. That’s so great! Even looking at it on a much smaller scale, modern medicine is unbelievable. I have a sibling who has an autoimmune disease. She’s on a host of different drugs. With these, she’s able to function as a normal person and not have any complications with her life. If she didn’t have these drugs, she’d be in a lot of pain daily and she’d probably end up not making it to her 40th birthday. So, modern medicine is pretty awesome. 

Those are five things that I’m grateful for. Feel free to share some of the things that y’all are grateful for too! 

I hope everyone has a great day!